There is no escape from pain, and it is indispensable to recover – ryan

Global star Jennifer Lopez has eight serious emotional relationships so far, the last of which was a second chapter of her story with actor Ben Affleck.

Despite the end of this love, Lopez continues her life with her usual elegance, although in the background of this sparkle may hide some sadness.

“You must love and appreciate yourself, and be convinced that you deserve the best, because if you do not, you will not be able to have a healthy relationship,” says the American singer from her experience.

Some people may think that the pain of separation is lightly passed over the stars, but psychology has another opinion. Psychological treatment, Dr. Romanus, confirms in her speech that “the pain of separation is transient for human beings, does not distinguish between a famous and unknown, everyone suffers when his heart loses a partner.”

After every separation, the tips are poured out: “Broke off”, “Start a new relationship”, “Play your time out”, but there is no actual magic recipe to overcome this pain.

This is what Rihanna also felt, when she separated from Chris Brown, and she described her condition at the time as “lost”, but she did not forget to remind her fans: “Cry if you like, but know that crying will not last forever.”

Crying after separation? natural. But as Romanos says, “Crying does not mean surrender, and it should not turn into a daily habit. The most important thing is that we give our feelings an opportunity to express, without being drowned in it until suffocation.” Sometimes, the person is the one who flogs himself, continues the news of his former partner or tries to communicate with him despite the repulsion. This type of behavior, according to Romanos, does not relieve pain but prolongs it.

Psychology is similar to the end of the emotional relationship with a tragic event, such as the loss of a dear person, and from here the five mourning stages begin: denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and finally acceptance.

It is not necessary for these stages to come in a clear arrangement, and may overlap. Sometimes, sadness begins before the separation itself, when one of the parties feels the end of the relationship without announcing it yet, which reduces the shock later.

Studies indicate that the period of mourning may extend for two years, with the first three months as the most difficult stage, and with each step towards recovery, memories become calm, and neutrality towards the previous partner is the first sign of overcoming ordeal.

But is the sadness between women and men different? From her experience, Romanos believes that men often “reason” matters, while emotion overcame women, even if they have ended the relationship.

She explained that this difference is due to education, where males are taught to suppress feelings, while females are allowed to express them, as men often rush to entertainment immediately, but sadness appears later, while women pass by sadness first, then resort to logic.

The confrontation of separation needs to return the person to himself, to what he loves and the like, especially the things that may have been abandoned for the sake of the partner, and this may be a hobby, sport, or meeting friends.

One of the frequent antics after the separation is: going to the hairdresser, cutting hair, or even changing its color, has become a common symbol of the woman’s desire to change.

From Selena Gomez to Demi Lovato and Kitty Perry, the looks changed with hearts, according to Romanos, this change is not just an external appearance, but an attempt to prove self and restore confidence.

But she warns: “External change is useful only when it stems from a personal conviction, not as a response to the previous partner.”