Opinion: For a month to the husband and wife ... Should they lock them in the house after marriage?

New -delhi: Sonam Raghuvanshi, Muskan Rastogi, Pragati Yadav, Shivani … Change the name, but the story is the same. Everyone is accused of killing their husbands brutally. The latest case is from Sonam, who allegedly killed her husband, King Raghuvanshi, during a honeymoon in Meghalaya. The whole country is surprised by the murder of the Indore Transport businessman Raja during a honeymoon trip. The whole story has not yet been revealed, but those who gave notice went out with their DHFLI. It cannot be said that Sonam is guilty before the court’s decision comes. But in the meantime, Madhya Pradesh, chief minister of Mohan Yadav, has made such a statement, which instead of taking lessons from a casual incident, society once again seems to be an attempt to learn old lessons of control over women. Mohan Yadav said: ‘It is not right to send children on honeymoon after marriage. We must return to the old traditions. We need to monitor children. If there is anger in the country about a tragic murder, there is a claim for justice around, then the statement of a chief minister is wrapped with the tradition of patriarchy instead of social consciousness, then it becomes not only “strange” but also “dangerous”. Is it really a solution? A woman was accused of conspiracy to murder. If she is convicted, she must be punished most strictly under the law. There are no two opinions in this. But the question is whether it is right to give a message to the whole society under the guise of this one case that ‘the root of the problem is’? What is the meaning of this? After marriage, husband and wife should not go alone? If a warning card is added with marriage rituals now: “Please do not go out, your wife can kill you!” How hollow and old this thinking is, from the fact that this statement was not made by the elderly who sit with a rural Dhaba, but by the main minister of a state. The right message hidden in the statement of Mohan Yadav is also: “Women cannot be trusted, so don’t send them away, keep monitoring, control them.” This thinking is an extension of the same ingredient tradition that said earlier that the daughter does not learn too much, does not do the work because ‘will deteriorate’. If a chief minister transforms this thinking into a government statement, then these thoughts do not remain, they begin to become a policy. Make the murder issue a matter of debate, but keep the goals ready. The questions that can be raised in this whole case are: Are the police being investigated properly from the beginning? Is Sonam being involved in a conspiracy? If he is guilty, how long will all the people associated with him will be caught? Is CBI investigation needed on the question of the family or not? In the midst of all these serious aspects, this statement of the chief minister deduces the attention of the real case and pushes the case into the cheap debate of ‘Male against Mahila’. If a girl is guilty after the murder, then does the whole female society consider suspicious? If this argument is correct, what would you say about all the murders that men, brothers or lovers have done? Did any chief minister then say, “Don’t send the girl to the boy’s house after marriage?” Has it ever been advised to keep home because of a male criminal? These lessons come from the spiritual structure of a society, not from any crime, where the freedom of a woman is always under doubt and the old traditions always overshadow the new freedom. What is the solution? If there is no control, justice and confidence if you want to learn a lesson from this incident, it must be that honesty and dialogue in the relationship must be increased. There must be not just rituals, understanding and responsibility in marriage. Any crime, investigation into it, must be fair. Media hearings should be avoided and the process of court must be trusted. And the most important leaders must hold an investigation into their tongue, because every word of them determines the direction of society. Finally, a question that society should be given a lesson by killing a king who doesn’t get married married couples now? Or should we think about how to strengthen relationships, how to investigate and how both women and men get equal justice? If CM Mohan Yadav is really worried about ‘children’, they must protect their rights and not advised them to be closed in the house. Marriage is a connection, not in jail. And not a honeymoon crime. This is a personal space. It is the responsibility of society to make it safe, not to spread fear.