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Resident Agony Aunt Coleen No. Has Advice for A Reader Whose Husband Has Become Lazy AFTER Retring, Lazing on the Sofa Nothing All Day and Not Helping Out with the Housework
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Dear Coleen
My husband and i are Both retired and have been marries for 42 years.
We are Very Lucky to have Three Grown-Up Children and Three Wonderful Grandchildren.
My problem is, while i’m busy every day, cleaning, cooking, washing, irony and seeing to everything else doing doing around the house, my husband is happy to absolutely nothing.
He just sits ARUND ALL DAY ON THE SOFA, Scrolling Through His Phone or Watching The Telly.
He used to at Least Go Out for a Walk Every Evening after Work, But Since Retring he doesn’t Boter with that any more and a result, he’s put on three stone in weight.
Coleen Nolan
He’s Also Been Diagnosed With High Blood Pressure and Mild Empysema.
Apart from the fact he does nothing to help at home, I worry about his health.
But when I suggest it might be good for him to go out for a walk, he immediately gets very angry with me.
I’d be very grateful if you can have provide any suggestions on what i can do about this frustration situation and how i can get my husband to listen.
Coleen Sayys
If he’s been diagnosed with these health willsives, maybe he’s woried that any Kind of Activity is Risky? I Think Is A Question of Reasuring Him That Some of Gentle Exercise is Beneficial and Healthier than at at all.
You might have to enCourage Him to see his gp, so he can hear it from a professional. But, obviously, if he’s put on three stone through inactivity, THEN IT’S BAD FOR HIS HIS AND BLOOD PRESSURE.
Spreads he’s got himself into a bit of a rut and he’s feeds mentally but finds it difficult to talk about.
Coleen Nolan
Retirement is a Big Life Change and Takes Some Adjustment to. It sounds like you’re keping your best busy, but maybe he’s struggling to know how to do the day working all his life.
I wonder if you couuld come up with some things that you can have together that he’d enjoy? Rather than pointing out what he’s doing work, it might be a question of giving Him some encourage and building his confidence.
As for doing Things at home, try doing a bit te, so he has to do more for Himself, like up from the sofa to make Himself a cup of tea.
Coleen Nolan
Now You’re Both retired and at home together, you probably Need New Boundaries ARUND WHAT WHAT. The fact that he dosesn’t seem bothered while you run around is very frustration.
TELL HIM THAT FEW YOU DON’T PROPECT HIM TO RUN A MARATHON OR SPRING-CLEAN THE HOUSE, YOU DO Expect Him to Something Because It Will Be Good for Him and Your Relationship.
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