Five big bedroom ‘icks’ that put Brits off getting frisky – but you can fix it

As much as we may try and deny it, certain things can put people off in the bedroom. According to an expert, there are a few main reasons why people get turned off

When it comes to getting intimate, it’s fair to say some things turn people on more than others.

Relationships can be complicated but, when it comes to sex, people like all sorts of things. There are a few specifics that can put a lot of people off though.

Over the last few months dating icks have been doing the rounds on social media platforms like TikTok, and people have been trying to unpick what common ones might mean. Villanelle Valmont, fetish expert at TheCage.cosaid there are five bedroom icks that are putting people off, but they may not always mean the end of the road.

Apparently, even if some things really turn a person off, there may be ways you can resolve the problem and find something that suits you and your partner.

She said: “Ever been presented with a partner’s bedroom request and thought, nope not today?

“You’re not alone, and thanks to social media platforms like TikTok, more people are getting candid about their biggest sexual icks. We’re talking about the things that leave them cringing but for someone else spark excitement and curiosity.

“The line between an ick and kink can be surprisingly thin and as the saying goes, ‘your kink isn’t my kink and that’s okay’. While some sexual requests might seem unusual at first, they can actually open the door to self-discovery and bonding – especially when they’re approached with open-mindedness and humor.

“So, here are five trending bedroom icks that people are shouting about online, and how you might be able to reframe them as fun explorations.”

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Foot fetishes

Imagine this, your partner asks to give your toes a sensual massage. Some might find it intriguing while others will be reaching for their socks.

Feet are seen as functional, not sexual, which is why some people view them as an ick. The idea of ​​toe touching or heel-worshipping might feel awkward or even too intimate.

But there are other ways to approach the idea. Foot play is great for exploring the senses, and can connect individuals in new and vulnerable ways.

Dressing up

Gender norms and societal perceptions often shape how we perceive clothing so, if your partner asks to borrow one of your items of clothing, you might be surprised and even embarrassed. For heterosexual women, seeing their male partner in traditional feminine attire can challenge their expectations.

Again, it’s important to take it slow if you want to reframe this situation. Start by experimenting with a single piece of clothing, like pants.

You could even try to look at it with humor to add a little fun to the bedroom. This doesn’t have to be serious, but it can be meaningful.

Roleplay

Student/teacher and doctor/patient scenarios can feel too contrived or cringe-worthy for some people but, for others, it makes them buzz with excitement. If you want to test it, there’s a simple solution – start with relatable and low-pressure situations such as strangers meeting in a bar.

Then, you can dive into more elaborate scenarios. Roleplay is a great way to discover new sides of yourself and your partner, and allows you to step into a different world – from the comfort of your bedroom.

Body fluids

Spitting or water sports might feel overly intimate or push boundaries, but you can ease into bodily play by using whipped cream and melted chocolate. This is not only fun but a great way to normalize sensory interactions.

Partners need to feel safe before diving into sensitive areas. However, be sure to focus on consent and communication.

Baby behavior

Baby talk, or even acting like a baby, can feel regressive and emotionally jarring, but for some it’s a sexual kink. To reframe it, try not to focus on literal baby behavior, and instead look at the nurturing or power dynamics.

Villanelle added: “When approached with care, this behavior can even create a safe and playful environment. It’s important to emphasize that it’s always okay to say no to something uncomfortable or upsetting, but there are ways to do it without shaming.

“Trying new things with a partner can be a fun opportunity to explore personal preconceptions and discover new interests. It can also be bonding and just plain fun (and sometimes funny).

“It might also encourage more open communication about things that intrigue you, but you may have been hesitant to share. Sometimes, you just don’t know until you try.

“If an ick arises, communicate with kindness. Set boundaries while remaining open to your partner’s perspective. And remember, laughter is part of the process.

“So, the next time your partner surprises you with a request, why not consider it? After all, their ick might just be your next unexpected kink – or at the very least, a story to laugh about.”