Resident Agony Aunt Coleen No. Has Advice for A Reader Whose Husband Has Moved Out but HIS CHILDREN WANT NOTHING TO DO HIM AND HIS ‘GIRLFREND’ KEEPS HER
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Dear Coleen
A Few Weeks Ago, My Husband Admitted that he had been having an affair and said he planned to leaves to be with the other woman. I didn’t see it coming and iters very out of the character.
He’s Been Living in a Hotel Room Down the Road, nor his “girlfriend” lives in a shared house with two other women, so he can’t live there.
The Whoo Thing is Ridiculous and He Making A Total Fool of Himself. Needless to Say, this Woman that he’s seeing is 27, so alost 20 years Younger than he is.
Our children, who are 13 and 15, have plety much dissownhed Him and refuse to see or speak to Him. While I haven’t enCouneded this, i can’t say i blame i say.
The bits I really need help with is that my husband’s girlfriend keeps emailing with over Him Seeing the Kids, Saying It ‘Unfair and That He’s Devastaated Because He’s Lost.
It ‘Driving with Mad Becuses this has no not. What I Actually Feel Like Discussing With Her Is Why She Started an Affair With My Husband and Wrecked Our Family in the First Place.
I’m angry, but am trying to stay composed and not to fire off furious emails i’m sura she’d love that. It’s a Nightmare and i Need Advice.
Coleen Sayys
I Undersand Why Your Children’s Loyalty Lies with you; they’re Feeling Protective of You and Are Angry on Your Behalf.
You can have a conversation with saying, explaining that while they dead’s behaviour has hurt all of you, he still loves.
You can help say that that is is between you and their dad, and it shouldn’t affect their Relationship with Him. IT’S A HARD THING TO DO, But ITH’S The Right Way to Approach Things and It Will Benefit Your Children in the Long Run.
I WAUTED IGNORE The Girlfriend’s Emails – Don’t Get Into a Dialogue with Her. Drop Those Emails Straight Into The Trash. You’re right, your children have nothing to do with her. I’m Guessing She’s Writing Out of Guilt and Maybe Your Husband is Also Giving Her A Hard Time Over the Kids and She Thinks in Her Interest To Try to Patch Things up.
But, what her reasons, it”s up to your husband to what he did and rebbuild those bridges with your children. IT’S NOT UP TO HER AND ITH’S NOT YOUR ASPONSONIBITY EATHER. He wimpy sounds, letting his girlfriend more emails – and should be the one messaging.
You don’t oWE THIS WOMAN ANYTHING AND IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO MAKES EASIER FOR HER, SO TELL YOURSBAND THAT YOU’H APPRECIATE IT IF I DIDN’t Contact You. Good Luck.
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