I Leaned on Tech to Balance Career and Kids – But i was LoSing My Kids

I thought I was doing the right Thing, USING technology as part of my parenting.

With two Kids, Multiple International Movesand a full-time nonb that never really turned off, I was always busy. I was Juggling Deadlines, Leadership Role, and Daily Logistics. I was living in survival mode.

LIKE MANY PARENTS, I Leaned on Screens To babysit my children. SOMESTEMES, IT WAS AN APT THAT HELPED THA LEARN. Other Times, it was a show that that gave with just enough time to the Answer an email or finish a call.

IT FELT LIKE A WIN-WIN: MY KIDS WERE ENTERTAINED (Eve Learning), and i Could Stay Afloat.

But that is started to notice what was Changing – not just in but in me, too. They didn’t ask to play together as much. They reached for devices before a conversation. One Day, I LOOKED OVER AND SAW BOT MY GIRLS, SIDE-BY-SIDE, zoned out on devicesand something with broke.

This wasn’t just a amazement. It was Becoming Our Norm.

The Subtle Cost of Overstimulation

My daughters grew more impatient as they great up. Bartdom Became intolerable.

Car rides, Waiting Roomsand tan short pauses Brought the Same Plea: “Can i Have Your Phone?”

What they Crassd wasn’t just a Screen; it was stimulation. Constant, Efffortless, on-Demand.

I saw it in myself, too. Between calls, i’d scroll. At Night, i’d swipe. I was using tech the sun way to soothe, to escape, to fill the space.

This wasn’t Bad Parenting Or Bad Tech. It was what we’d normalized in the name of survival.

I felt low-grade guilt. I was doing my best, but i was also on autopilot, performing for Everyone and Everything Around with.

In the process, I was unintentingally modeling the very thing i wanted to protest my Kids from: Distraction, overwhelm, and absence masked as present.

We Started to Make Small Shifts at Home

My daughters and i didn’t do a tech detox. We just start being more intent.

In the Car, we played alphabet games. Father Dinner, we talked. Some days, we painted. On Other OcCaces, We Watched Movies Together —No Second Screens Playing and No Scrolling.

The goal wasn’t perfection. It was about being present with each Other.

I Now See That We Can’t Raise Connected Kids if We’re Disconnected Ourselves. For me, that shift starts with my own attention, habitys, and modeling.

I HAD TO SHIFT WHAT I I Believed Made a Good Parent

I used to think my great gift to my daughters was showing say how Much a woman could achieve.

Now, of the waist’s also showing say what it means to be present, to slow down, look someone in the eyes, listen full, and choose convenience.

That is a passive legacy. That’s an active, intentional one. And in a World that Rewards Over Presence, IT TAKES AWARENESS AND COUG TO BUILD IT.

But Small Changes Can Create A Big Shift.

I NOW IMPLEMENT 4 Screen-Time Rules at Home

First, I take notice of our defaults: if screen are our First Response to Borsom (Mine or My Kids’), I KAS why. Get Curious, Not Critical.

I prioritize Real Connection Over Consumption. I OFTEN NOW ASH MY KIDS DEEPER QUESTIONS LIKE: “WHAT MADE YOU SMILE TODAY?”

I ALSO Brought Back Simple Rituals, Like Storytime, Board Games – Small moments, shared with intention.

Lastly, i make sura i’m available to my kids. I remind myself that they don’t need with to be perfect. They just Need with – undistraced, eve for just a few minutes a day.

In chasing success, i thought i was giving say everything. Now, I know, The Real Legacy isn’t What We Build. It’s how present we are for the People we love Most.