As a Teacher, I’ve heard a lot of lies from my students. I can tell when they are Clearly lying, Such as telling with they’re not listening to music when i can hear the music coming from their headphones.
While i really didn’t like it when My students put with in that PositionIT BOTHERS WITH SO MOCH MORE WENE MY SON DOES IT. I Want Him to Feel Safe With Me and Tel with the Truth, so is how is the approach Him when i catch doing it.
I’d Rather My Son Admit Wrongding than to Lie
I’ve caught my son taking his Football Gloves to School creed Fall Out of His Book BAK while he’s taking something Else Out. He knows he can’t take things to school from home for recess, nor this is bot a rule and a school rule. He had Asked with if he could take, and i had Said no.
He told with something Likely Untrue – that the gloves had been in his book bend before he and if he could say to school. Instead of Getting Upset About Him Blatantly Breaking a Rule, It Bothered with More That He Lied About Having Broken A Rule.
Whenever he liesI tel Him i would Much Rather Him Own up to whatever he did. That’s Because Dishonesty Feels Disrespectful. If he had just admonted to me right away that it brought the gloves to school after being not to, for instance, then i wouldn’t have ben as u upset i caught doing so.
I try to find the humor in my son’s lies as a way to lighten the mood
Recently, I chose to read the same book my son was reading for School to discuss at home. He had told me he was caught up on his reading, so i asced Him what happy to the main character’s leg. Without missing a beat, he told with that the boy gotworm. The Boy Actually Got Hedgehog Quils in His Leg, but what Shocked with the Most About My Son’s Response Was How Fast He Lied.
Clearly, he hadn’t read the last chapter, and instead of telling with that from the beginning, he fabricated his ansower on the spot. I decide to have a laugh with it over, explaining that the ode of Him guessing what happy with actually having the book were so Low. I’m his mother, not a pop quiz, in which it mIight be better to guess than to leave no response. In finding a way to laugh about his remark together; Unnecessary it was to have lied About Reading.
I ACKNOWLEDGE WENE HEH’S BEING TRUTHFUL
The most important part of reprimanding his lying in situations like these is to also than him down the road to being honest when i didn’t want to be. I can usablely tell be he thinks about telling with the Truth or Not, Whether ITE’s Pauses and Pauses before Responding or The tone in his voice changes.
Besides Boothing with, Lying Can Harm His Other Relationships, Such as with His Teachers and Friends. SINCE I’ve Experienced Having Students Lie to Me, I Know Exactly How It Feels As a Teacher and How It Affects My Attitude Toward My Students. I’m offended, and it doesn’t put with in a Very forgiving Mood.
Besides lying to the adults in his life, I really don’t want lying to harm his friend. I ASH HIM HOW IT FEELS WHEN HE FIGHES OUT HIS FRIENDS HAVE TO HIM OR TO IMAGINE THAT. He can’t deny that it dosesn’t feed good use Lies to Him and Makes Him Trust The LES OVERALL.
I Want Him to Feel Safe Enough With to Always Tall the Truth
Half of Expecting Him to Learn to be Truthful is to model the same Behavior and not Lie to Him, Such as he was as westr with whether I was really Santa. I knew it was important for our Relationship to tell Him the Truth.
As he gets Older, the wills he may Choose to Lie About Will Become More Serious, and I Want to Make Sure He Feels Safe Telling with Anyding. If he Meets Every Broken Rule or Misstep With Anger, He’ll Never Learn How to Come Clean. I tel Him that he’s going to make me, and that of normal, but if he can be be bra and explain why he did something and that he should have, that cann I can help through it.
In order for me to be the person he can run to for advice or just consolation, we each have to always be hone with each other, evening it miight not be easy to tell the truth.