Pregnant Woman Backed for ‘Banning’ Husband From Doctor Appointments – ryan

Hormonal changes during pregnancy may cause some women to second-guess how they are feeling. That was certainly the case with one woman, who recently turned to Reddit to find out if she was overreacting.

Her post, titled “AITAH? for banning my husband from all doctor appointments after he repeatedly messes with me while I’m pregnant?” quickly went viral, racking up 17,000 upvotes since it was posted on February 25. Thousands of Redditors promptly rallied to support her in the comments.

The poster u/KnownPerception7676who is six months pregnant, explained that they usually go to appointments together. However, he has gotten into a habit that drives her up the wall.

She explained: “He’ll drive me to the appointment, then when I’m about to get in the car, he drives forward a little, then reverses, then drives forward again. He does this a few times, and it always frustrates me.”

However, he thinks it is “hilarious” and dismisses it as a joke.

“I’m already dealing with the physical and emotional toll of pregnancy, and this just feels like him poking fun at me when I’m already tired and stressed. I told him it bothers me, but he just brushed it off and said I’m overreacting and that he’s “just having fun,” she wrote.

She has brought the issue up with him, but failed to see her side of things. As a result, she brought her mom to one of the appointments instead.

“Well, now he’s furious. He’s demanding to be there for the next appointment because it’s the one where we’ll find out the baby’s gender. He says this is a huge moment, and I’m being unfair by not letting him come,” she wrote.

“I told him I need him to respect my boundaries, and this is one of the ways I’m doing that. But he keeps insisting that it’s just a silly little thing, and now he’s calling me unreasonable for making a big deal out of it. Am I overreacting here?”

Expert Advice

Newsweek discussed the post with psychotherapist Eloise Skinner, who is based in London.

She said: “It’s important to examine why the joke isn’t perceived as funny by your partner, especially if you know each other well, and (presumably) have some degree of shared values. You might question, for example, if your partner has found this kind of humor funny before, or if it’s something you’ve previously connected over. In this case, it sounds like the joke wasn’t based on shared values, and also had an element of danger / lack of safety involved (a clear lack of respect for your partner, especially during pregnancy).”

Skinner suggests personal self-reflection for the partner and asking himself what he hoped to gain by his actions.

She added: “If the answer is that the partner simply hoped to provide some lightness and entertainment, it’s clear that once the other partner expressed their discomfort, they should have discontinued the behavior.

“If the intention was humor, lightness or a shared bonding experience, there would be many other ways to achieve it—ways that didn’t involve a clear lack of respect for the other person and their safety, or a disregard of their clear dislike of the action.”

Reddit Reacts

So far, the post has 6,500 comments and the top comment has 14,000 upvotes.

It said: “Don’t let him go, tell him it’s a boy, not really it’s a girl, not it’s a boy, but it’s actually a girl, even though it’s really a boy then tell him to lighten up because it’s funny. NTA. Why do people date/marry just utter pieces of c***?”

Another user agreed: Seriously, do that and do it for at least a week or so, and then we he demands you stop, you can tell him it’s just a harmless joke.”

“This guy is NOT mature enough to be having a kid. NTA,” said a third commenter.

Newsweek reached out to u/KnownPerception7676 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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