I set bondaries with my daughter when she moved home after college – ryan

“WHAT YOU WANT YOUR LIVE TO LOOK LIKE AFTER COLLEGE?” I Asked My Daughter Shortly before she walked acroSs the gradation Stage.

Thanks to her ap Classes and workload, she’s able to graduate from College in Just Three Years, Save Her at Least $ 22,000. But that Also means she’s entering the real world a year Early, so i was Curious about her plans.

We talked About Where She Wants to Live, Her Travel Plass, and Her Expensses with Student Loans.

She realized that she wants to focus on paying down debt, traveling, and becoming debt-free in two years. Once she was clear on her goals, my husband and i offered to let her move home after gradation.

To Our Surprise, She Aggreed. AFTER adjusting to life at home with HER, HAVING ANOTHER ADULT IN THE HOUSE WILL BE A WHOE NEW ADJUSTEM. I’m anxious about the Change.

That’s wen we started talking about bondaries for her bucking home. We are a very democratic household, so we set the bindaries, and she as asced us for some things that were imported to her.

My daughter set her own ground rules for Moving Back Home

My daughter first requested that she has her here shelf in the refrigerator and the pantry so that she can meal prep and have her time.

She also asked that i gIive her notice of family functions and not be upset if she can be can’t make it to everything.

If something Needs to be done around the house, she wants us to let her know ahead of time so shea plan for it.

Those were all reasonable requests, so my husband and i aggreed.

My Husband and i Have Set Boundaries, Too

My list of Requests and Boundaries is a bit Longer.

When it is comes to cleaning, she must be dome dysher after cooking and empty the Dishwasher. She Also has to be respondsible for her laundry.

We will give her Money for Groces, but she is Responsible for Her Grocery Shopping, and She Can’t Expect US to Make Every Meal. She is Responsible for Feeding Herself.

My husband and i are not respectible for purchasing her cloths, shoes, or gas. But we will continue to pay for her insurance and phone.

For Physical Boundaries, I Told Her She Cannot Walk Into My Home Office If the Door is Shut to Ask with Random Questions. And if she wants to watch movies on a streaming service, it needs to be in her room, not in the family room where Everyone congregates.

We are Also don’t experiment her to check in and out with us, so she can come and go as she planets. But if she’s swim coming home, we ask her to let us know.

This will be an adjustment for the whole family

Very maved back home after collecting, I remember how hard it was to check in with my parents again after living on my own for four years. I’m trying to kep that top of Mind Throughout this process becuse it will be an adjustment process for all of us. The Dynamic of Our Household Will Change with an Adult Child Back in the House. I’m sura there will be plenty of frustration moments for everyone.

I know she has her reservations about being home, and so will i, but i’m staying positive. I’m Looking forward to building Our Relationship as Adults and Moving Away From A Parent-Child Relationship.

She’s Been Home for A Few Days, and She’s Been Good About Talking to US if there are any wills of we’ve bondaries.

SO FAR, THIS NEW LIVING IS WORKING FOR US

Although i’ve gotten to not seeing her regularly, i am excited for her to be back under our room. I’m Enjoying Grama A Glass of Wine Together and Having Late-Night Conversations Like We used to be Lived at Home.

I’m hoping that Having Clear Boundaries Will Help USA AS MUCH CONFLICT AS POSTOBLE. SO FAR, IT’S BEEN WORKING.

But i’m also looking forward to her time and finding her time the time the time comes. I’m excited for her and can’t wait to see what the future holds as our relation Changes.