Woman Demands Money After Friend Threw Away Her Kitchenware – ryan

• A woman, who shared her story on Reddit, says her friend threw the kitchen items away after subletting her apartment
• She says she told her friend she should reimburse her for items thrown away
• The woman wants to know from her fellow online community members if she is handling the complicated situation correctly

A woman is seeking advice after her friend threw away household items without consulting her.

The woman recounted her experience on the AITA community of Redditwhere commenters go to get advice about their reactions to situations. In the post, the woman shared that following the birth of her child, she and her husband decided to spend two months with the baby’s grandmother.

The poster explained the circumstances: “We welcomed our lovely baby girl, and are lucky to be in a country where parents can take a good amount of off time. We decided to spend 2 months in my country, so my mum could bond with the baby, since she couldn’t be here when my first was born (Covid).”

“Coincidentally, a couple we know was returning from a trip around the world, and needed to rent an apartment,” she wrote. “It was a perfect match, they cover our rent and we can be relaxed since they can look after our apartment and car.”

Once the family returned, however, the poster noticed something was wrong. “Well, once we returned I noticed our kitchen was almost EMPTY. I mean baking utensils, forks, knives, pans, cooking ingredients, casseroles, even utensils my mom brought from my home country for special meals were GONE. I was furious. I still cannot believe how someone can do such a thing. She replaced one of two frying pans and that was it. We still have a few pans, but speciality items to cook and bake different things are gone.”

When asked about the situation, the friend gave a surprising answer and “acted like she did a favour.” However, “once she realised we were not happy, she argued (that) only those she could not make clean ‘ENOUGH’ were thrown away,” the woman continued.

The poster wasn’t thrilled with the subletter’s response. “I demanded she replace every single thing. I feel like I am in crazy town, I mean WHO DOES IT? If you don’t know what something is for WHY THROW IT AWAY???” she shared.

The woman’s husband wants to keep the peace, and thinks the wife should stand down. “My husband is begging me to let it go, not to lose a long friendship,” she said.

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“I am heartbroken and my husband keeps saying it’s just stuff. I am usually not materialistic, so he is shocked I care so much,” the poster wrote. “But its not about the money. One of those was a Couscous Maker my mom brought me from my country. There were special items from when I baked cookies for my kids.”

The woman asked Reddit if she was overreacting. The response was clear: the friend was out of line. “If you are borrowing something, it is your job to return it in equal or better condition — or come to a suitable agreement with the owner to replace it entirely,” one commenter wrote.

Several Reddit users also agreed that the subletters are the ones who ruined the friendship, not the original poster.

“I want you to keep reminding yourself that you will not ruin a friendship,” said another commenter. “These people have already ruined it by disrespecting your living space, your belongings, probably things that are of special value of you and by taking away your rights of deciding what you do with your stuff. These people don’t have a shred of respect for you.”

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A different commenter chimed in: “Completely unacceptable. It’s not just about the ‘stuff’ though – it’s about a) the memories you have attached to those items and b) the disrespect and carelessness this ‘friend’ showed towards you by what they did and then compounded that by their refusal to take accountability.”

“I totally get it. I’ve a pot I only cook one meal in. I’ve been using it for 30 years and was gifted by my mother for that one meal. It’s as integral a part of the recipe as my mom saying ‘add a spoon of sugar, no not that spoon, the spoon I fed your brother with when he was a baby.’ Food, and the pots they are made in, are memories,” another commenter wrote.