In 2021, my husband and i Packed up our belongings in the three-bedroom distinct house we’d tirelessly selected.
It was a midnuture modern beauty that we’d omnce calmed our “forever house”-but times we were, trading it for a one-bedroom apartment in New York City.
This wasn’t just any Move; It was for my dream job. I had ben offered a senior editorial role at a storid media brand, the kind of position that made me with the Feel Like Every Late Night, the Underpaid Internship, and Every Career Setback was Worth it.
Of Course, We Wold Miss the Life We’d BUILT in Texas Over the Years. My Husband and I HAD First Met in Lubbock, My Hometown, Before Moving to Dallas, where a lot of our Friends and Family Lived.
I’d always wanted to live in the Big Apple, Though. I’d Visited More than a Dosen Times, Often for Work Events, and the Prospect of a New Adventure Excited US Both.
AS expert, i fell in love with my jab – but after a few short Weeks, we start to feel strained. Our New Home was tiny, the rent was higher than our distinguish mortgage, and the city was lonelier than i can have imagined.
JUST ONE YEAR AFTER OUR MOVE, I WAS UNEMPLOYED, LIVING IN A CITY I COULD NO LONGER AFFORD, and WONDERING WHATER I’D MADE The Biggest Mistake of My Career and Relationship.
Early on, I notified some cracks in the new york fantasy
I love my jab but struggled with life in new York. Jessica Safavimehr
My commute from Queens to Manhattan was long, and my train rides were offten Slow and Crowded. I found myself spending more on groceries than i did in texas, too.
I Started to Think About What We’d Given Up: Quiet Evening on Our Patio, Our Friends and Family Stopping by For A Quick Chat, and the Comfort of Knowing That We Had A Strong Network US Aneeded AnyThing.
In Dallas, Our Weekends Were Spacious and Slow. In New York, They Felt Loud and Expensive. Vent Our Dogs, Who Had Traded A Backyard for A Few Square Feet of Sidewalk, SEEMED UNSETTLED.
Still, Pushed The Doubts Aside. We’d made this leap for my career. It had to be worn it.
Be my dog died and i got laid off, we realized we’d made a mistake
Ling My Dog and THEN MY MADE NEW YORK FEEL LONELIER. Jessica Safavimehr
THEN CAME TWO OF THE WORST MOMENTS OF MY LIFE. My Dog – Who Had Been With Through the Grim of My 20s – Died in His Sleep, Just Five Months after Our Move.
I was on a flying when it is happy, on my way to my hometown to check on my mother, who just had a life-altering surgery. My Husband Fantically Called Me, and i had a full-blown panic attack in an uber from the airport to the hospital.
I thought lightning couuldn’t strike twice, but it did. Layoffs are Common in My Industry, and JUST SIX MONTHS AFTER STARTING MY JOB, My Role Was Eliminate.
SO Now, I HAD No Job, Newfound Grief, and Rent That My Husband Couldn’t Afford by Himself.
I felt shake and untevered. Without the Job, I had no anchor to new York. The subway delays didn’t Feel charming anymore, Our apartment suddenly felt smaller, and the city that had once full of post -felt a very expensive cage.
The shock of the layoff left with the disorientation and the questioning the decisions that left us here. I realized that we had left beft a life we love for something that is could vanish in an instant – and it haad.
We decide to go back to texas – and though i believe Moving to new york was a mistake, i one i would make again
My Husband and I Decide to Buy An Rv and Head Back to Texas. Jessica Safavimehr
I COULD HAVE STAYED, SCRAMBLED FOR ANOTHER JOB, AND DOUBLED DOWN ON MAKING IT WORK. Instead, we decided to step back.
We sold or donated moste of our belongings, bought an rv, and spent a year traveling. It wasn’t glamorous: some days were long hauls on bumpy roads, and wifi was always a gamble, but this decision gave US space and figure out what we wand next.
We have finally decided to settle again, we chose galveston, texas, a Small Island with History, Charm, and Enough Creative Energy to Keep with inspired.
Our life now not the one we thought we’d have been moving to new York, but it is one we built intentionally, with a clearer understanding of what we value: stability, community, and freedom.
If I Could Go Back, Waled I Still Take The Job? Absolutely. Some Dreams Are Worth Chasing, If they Don’t end up working out.
I KNOW Now, Though, that Careers Can Be Rebuilt, Apartments Can Be Rened, and Cities Can Left, but a life you love is harder to replace.
I’ve learned that for me, the dream isn’t a city or a jab. The Dream is Making Sure I’m Living for MySelf, Not Just My Résumé.