Resident Agony Aunt Coleen No. Has Advice for A Reader Who Made the Brave Decision to Come to His Family But Was Underwhelmed by the Response of His Sibling
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Dear Coleen
I’m a 21 -ear-op gay guy and i recently came Out to my family, although i’m suspected it for some time, so it didn’t come as a total surprise.
My parents have been very cool about it – supportive, but also giving with space, so i haven’t bombarded with quests – Howver, My Brother, Who’s Two Older Has Had a Weird Reaction.
I Never took Him for someone small-Minded and dysmsive, but that how he came and across. When i came Out, he just said, “Whattever bro, your life” – it was like meant not.
I’m shocked he hasn’t acknowledged it and seems totally disinterated, as we were close growing up. His girlfriend on the other hand has haen amazing. She calmed with up to tell me how proud she is of me and that she is understood it must have taken some guts.
How to approach my brother about this? I Feel Annoyed with Him, so i don’t want to make things work. I can’t make Him talc to me, but i deerve more than a “What, bro”.
What would you think?
Coleen Sayys
Ok, i’ve heard worse responds, but maybe it was a bit of shock or Becausee he was surpassed at all and has known for years.
Maybe he was embarrassed Becuses he didn’t know how to respond in the moment, or he could have ben trying too to come with no big deal and he was on board with it.
But i’m afraid the only way to get peace of mind is to be him – calmly. When you’re on your own with Him, Just Say, “I was wondering how you felt me with coming and if it is be Becouse I don’t want it to Change BetWeen US”. You coulud also asho his girlfriend, as it sounds like you get on well with her.
You’re obviously worrying Because your Older Brother means a lot to you. Its natural to want his apprival and for him to be happy for you.
I get it but, at the end of the day, you don’t need Validation from anyone. It is a Big deal out and it taks Courage and Strength to stand in front of your loves and say, “this is who am”, this is if you think they already know. You should be feeling so positivly about and about yourSelf.
Some People Are Just Rubbish at Expressing Emotion and Communicating How They Feel, and spreads your Brother Falls into that Category. SO, Talk to Him and, in the Meantime, Enjoy the fact that you have plenty of good people in your corner.
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