‘My mate flirts with my husband but this time she has gone too’
Resident Agony Aunt Coleen No. Has Advice for A Reader Whose Friend Got Touch-Feely with Her Other Half, But Is Now Being Made to Feel She is Overrecting
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Dear Coleen
I’m hoping that you’ll tel me i’ve the right Thing by ending a friendship with anyone who crosses the line with my husband.
I’ve known this friend for nearly 18 years, Since our eldest children were at nursry together. Over the years, we formed a close friendship, hanging out together with our partners, going on Holiday with Our Families, and Supporting Each Other Through Life’s and Downs.
She’s always been a massive flirt, especifly with my husband, but i’ve always laughed it off, knowing she gets a bit ott when she drinks.
She’s Also a funny, entertaining character, SO i ACCPTED it as part of her Personality.
A Couple of Weeks Ago, we were at another Friend’s House for a meal with our partners and, predictable, she had a lot to be drink and flirty act with my husband.
At first to let it go, as i always do, butn that she sat on his lap and started whispering in his ear, Nuzzling his neck and stroking his hair.
He lookeed so embarrassed and I felt humiliated, as there are 10 of US Sat Around the table. I just got up and left, and i’ve been INORING HER Calls and Messages Ever Since.
I’m done with her and have told my husband we’re not seeing her or her husband again. I’ve heard shen been telling people i overreacted and that it was “just a bit of fun”, whic makes with more MAD. I’d love your opinion.
Coleen Sayys
I think this friend has had had it day. I’m wondering who this was “fun” for – Certainly not for you or your husband, and all the others squirming with embarrassment around the table.
She’s Gaslighting You by Saying It Was “JUST A BIT OF FUN”, LIKE YOU’RE THE CRAZY ONE FOR BEING UPSET. It sounds as if this so-calared friend gets away with a lot, playing up to her “Big Personality” and USING DRINK AN EXCUSE. But Real Friends Don’t Act this Way, Fitter A Drink.
Funny Banter is One Thing, but Getting Physical With Someone ELSE’s partner is downright disrespectful. ALSO HAPPY A ONE-OFF. She’s Been Building Up to It For a Long Time, Creating a Toxic Situation, SO YOU’VE Done the right Thing.
I don’t think you Lose anyding by letting the Friendship Go. And who cables if she’s telling People you overreacted? There are oters present and i’m sura all of the saying aggree she crossed a line. You handled it calmly and with grace. She’s the one with exgg on her face.
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