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Coleen Nolan Advises a 30-Yedar-Old Reader Who Has Fallen in Love With A Much Older But Feels that they are being pushed away over imaginary concerts the age gap
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Dear Coleen
I’m a guy aged 30 and i’ve been see an Older Woman, Who’s 50, for a Couple of Months.
We met JUST before Christmas at A Party Thrown by One of My Colleagues. She’s divorced and has one son, who is 20 and doesn’t live at home any More.
She’s sexy and cool, and i’m already in love with her, but we can’t ignore the age gap, which crops up a lot in conversation.
For one, her son isn’t keen on me. I get it, nor i probably don’t seem that Much Older than Him. Be he’s home and i’m there, he doesn’t engage with me at all and i don’t know how i’m supp. “Hello, Mate” is usablely nor far.
Coleen Nolan
Its Also Obivious that my girlfriend isn’t as serious as i am About Our Relationship. She offen Says Things like, “When you fall in love and get married” and “When you have your own kids”. It appears like i’m just a temporary part of her life and wenever i try to initiate a conversation about the futures, she shuts it down.
IT DOESN’T MAKE WITH FEEL GREAT. Do you think she’ll ever take our Relationship Serious?
Coleen Sayys
You’re obviously bot Having fun and getting a lot from the Relationship, but i think your partner is probably just trying to be realistic given the age gap.
Making Those Comments Also Sounds Like a Bit of a Defense Mechanism to Protect Herself from Getting Hurt and Stop Others Thinking She Has Been “Taken in” by a Youunger Guy.
I think all you can be is very direct about how you feel, but just keep in mind that at this moment you are in the thrilling, passionate stages of the Relationship.
Six months or a year down the line, we have excitement has died a bit, you might feel differently about the futures.
You might think, “Oh, I want Kids” or “I Want to Be With Someone Closer to My Own Age”.
So i think you have to be aware of the realities of the being with a partner who is at a very different stages of life.
Maybe if you took a more pragmatic approach to discussing your Relationship, Your Girlfriend Wauld be More Willing to Listen.
I Undersand Her Son Not Being Thrilled That She’s Dating a Much Younger Guy – I Remember My Eldest Sonxing with not to date anyone closer to his age than mine!
Maybe he’s not getting Too invested Because and Expecting It Not to Last, but at Least He’s Not Being Difficult or Unpleasant.
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