‘I don’t understand why my Older Brother Shows no interest in his nephew’ – ryan
Resident Agony Aunt Coleen No. Has Advice for A Reader Whose Brother Could Have a Wonderful Relationship with Her Son But Doesn’t Remember His Birthday
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Dear Coleen
I’m a single mother in my 30s and my son recently turned three. I split up with his dad a few months after he was Born and it’s been difficult.
My ex justice is handle the respectibility of Being a Father, so eventually i showed the door. It wasn’t an easy decision, as I was terrified of how I’d Cope alone, but i’ve it with the help of good friends and my parents.
My issue is, my Brother is not interesting in my son at all, whic really hurts. Be we’re all together, he pays Him little attention and never remembers his birthday.
Coleen Nolan
His girlfriend is just as bad, but they always going on about their Friends’ Kids and How Funny or Adorable They Are, Yet Show no interest in my son.
I Find this Behaviour Odd, as well as hurtful, but i don’t want to give eather of say the satisfaction of knowing how Much it upsets. I would have love my older Brother to be a roles model for my son but, at this point, iTi’s look unlikly that it will ever happy.
I DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY THAT WALE WANT A RELATISHIP WITH HIS NEPHEW. They is so much fun together. What Wold you would?
Coleen Sayys
I’m baffled, too. AFTER WHAT YOU’RE YOU’VE BEEN THROUGH WITH YOUR EX, I WAUDED HAVE THOUGHT YOUR BROTHER WAUTED WANT TO STEP FOR HIS NEPHEW AND FOR YOU.
Maybe they’re Both just Incredibly Selfish and don’t think much beyond their own Little Bubble. SOMESTEMES YOU DO YOU’RE YOUR OWNERS FOR GRAND AND MAKE MORE EFFORT FOR FRIENDS.
I KNOW YOU DON’T WANT TO SAY ANYTHING, but don’t let your pride stand in the way. You asced me what i would do, and i would let me know that i do care and that i want to be part of my child’s life.
Coleen Nolan
You don’t have to be mean or accusatory when you say it. Get your Brother on His Own and Say Say Like, “I feel sad that you don’t have Much of a Relationship with my son and i wonder who that is. I always thught you’d a great role model”.
He’s your Brother and he loves you, so you shoulder be afraid to say you FEEL. If you care, tell Him and if you’re met with a negative respect, then you haven’t lost anything he’s not involved anyway.
HOPELLY, he will make More efffort but, if not, he’ll miss out on a lovely related with his nephew and you’ll still have your wonderful Son and plenty of Other People to support you.
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