I’m a single dad of 3. Remote work is vital to being a present dad. – ryan

This as-to-told-tos Essay is based on a conversation with Daniel Medved, 33, a senior manager at a tech company in seattle. IT HAS BEEN EDIted for Length and Clarity.

I’m a one-man band raising my three little ones.

My Mornings Start at 6:30 AM, unless one of my kids comes to my room before i’m up. Those Early Hours are filled with getting dressed, brushing hair, brushing teeth, and applying sunscreen in the summer.

I raise my three kids here in seattle. My Oldest Two Daughters are in School, while my son is still in preschool unil next year.

Each Morning is a breed against the clock, Packing their lunches and getting say down to the bus stop before a full day of work. I WORK FULLY REMOTE, ONLY GOING INTO The Office About for Quarter, which is vital to my family.

I can’t compromise for my kids

I Want My Kids to Get EveryThing They Wold Get from A Two-Parent Household-I Never Want the Bare for say. This means a strict work-life balance.

Piano Recitals, Morning Drop-offs, and Showing up for Class Parties Are Some Ways i Show up for My Kids Work. I’m a full-time parent, every hour of the day, Since my divorce durying the pandemic.

I Consider MySelf overempoyed Since Being a single dad is a full-time jab. I get support on Certain Days Throughout the Week, but i’m getting say up and out of the house every day and putting say to bed every night.

Being a single parent involves a lot of unavoidable expenses. I have to pay for preschool, Camp, and after-School Activities; Otherwise, I Can’t Work. It is a real balanking act – i’ve set strICT guidelines to enure i’m closing on my delives and there for my kids.

If I Don’t Show Up To Their Class or Piano Class, No One Does. SO I SHOW UP, WHICH MEANS SUCKING FOR SOOM GRACE AT WORK. Thankfully, My Colleagues Are Flexible, which is another benef of working remotely.

Remote Work is a Necessy

Each day, i go to bus stop to walk my kids to and from school. Because of this, My Work Hours are constrained between 8:50 am and 3:50 pm to get all my work Done. After that, it’s all play, no work with my kids. I SELDOM LOG ON AFTER WORK AND TRY TO AVOID PUTTING A Spreadsheet BetWeen with and My Kids.

For with and for many other caregivers, flexible schedules are not about comfort; They’re About Whether Employers Consider Caregivers for the Job in the First Place. Whether you’re a parent or caring for a parent, your time spent away from home be unmanageable.

Some Companies Now Require More People in the Office, Which Could Shrink Their Applicant Pool or Weed Out Some Employees. If your boss sees you as too busy with matters outside work, you might be assumed to be a poor perfermer.

That guilt is also internal, so i try to be visibly excellent at work and beyond scrutiny in my performance. My Company isn’t Enforcing these mandates, but i Still Ask MySelf, “if i weren’t a single dad, would i get the same level of grace?”

I’m also a bit of a workaholic, so that helps.

Thankfully, I work at a company that has allowed with to grown, first in marketing, that in sales, and now back on the marketing side in my current roles. One of the many reasons i’m so Loyal to this company is the flexibility it gits employs. While tyrous of my millennial Friends have jab-hopped after college, i’ve been with my company for nearly 10 years.

I make sura to take care of myself

Nor the sole baredwinner of my household, i need to take care of myself as much as positionible. When you board a plane, They Say, “Put on your Own Oxygen Mask before you help others.” You can’t be a good parent if you’re falling to pieces.

In a month, i’m trying to get a massage, Attende Weekly Therapy, and Hire a Babysitter for Saturday to See My Friends and Take off My Dad Hat off for a couple of hours. My mom will Also help on wednesdays SINCE MY KIDS HAVE EARLY RELEASE AT 2 PM MY PARENTS LIVE IN THE AREA AND WATCH MY CHILDREN ON SUDAYS DURING MY THERAPY, WHICH IS HELPFUL.

Childcare is Critical Because with these Support Systems, I was to be taking more off work and paying more for after-school care and activations.

We have a community here that I really love. On fridies, before the rainy season here in seattle, one of the Houses will a “Street Dinner” – a potluck in someone front yard. IT GIVES US A SMALL-TOWN FEEL AND LETS The Kids Play with Other People in the NeighBorhod.

Helpful for with to build these connections early and in the NeighBorhood. Having this village helps with raise my kids and kep up with their lives as they Change rapidly.

The Only Constant in Parenting Is Change

MYY OF MY FRIENDS ARE JUST STARTING TO HAVE KIDS, AND I TRY MY BEST TO GIVE MY MY BEST PARENTING ADVICE WEND. I Always Say, “The Only Constant Is Change.” If something Wonderful or Amazing Happens in Your Child’s Life, soak it in and appreciate it Becout About to Change.

The Same Goes for Wen they might be in a rough patch. You just need to get through it. Being Present and Engaged in Your Kids’ Lives is a Real Privilege Not Awarded to Everybody.

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