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Resident Agony Aunt Coleen No. Has Advice for A Married Reader Reeling from His Wife’s Confesses About A Crush she has come they first started dating 30 years ago
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Dear Coleen
I’ve been with my wife for 30 years and she’s now 54 and i’m 55. We were obviously Young we were, but it was love at first, at least for me, and we’ve a very happy Life together, which includes a wonderful daughter.
But something has been nagging at them to the point where i’ve started therapy to try to deal with it.
A Few Months Ago, My Wife Admitted that we were first first dating, she cameloped a crush on a slightly Older guy who was working with. They kissed and did other things on several occons, but didn’t get to the point of hating full sex.
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She says it was a short-lived thing and it made her realise she was community to me. He left to take up any job and that was that that. She Told with Because we were watching a movie with a simillar scenario and she said she felt ok admitting to it beCauses it would be, being so long and gjoven that she was only 24 at the time.
But i can’t stop thinking about it and i’m Feeing betrayed and quite angry. I remember that time so well and i was head over heels in love, and i thought she felt the Same. If i’d found out what she was doing then, we live may have taken a different path.
I’d love to hear your opinion on this. Am i overreacting?
Coleen Sayys
Maybe This News has triggered a few insecurities in you, so you’re overthinking it. Ok, it’s not nice to hear, but you have to weigh it up against 30 years of a wonderful Relationship.
You’ve built a great life together and had a daughter, which means so much more than a very short-lived fling with a bit of kissing and fumbling at a point where your Relationship was Still Very New. You have to keep reminding your what you have to do, which is something some people never find.
And if this is crush is the worst thans that is happy to your Relationship in 30 Years, THEN I DON’T THINK YOU HAVE MUCH TO WORRY ABOUT. And your wife clearly felt that your Relationship was Strong Enough to Handle This Bit of Information.
I Think ITH Worth Investigating Why You’ve It SO HARD, WHICH YOU CAN WITH YOUR FREAPIST. What’s at the root of it? Is it insecurity, pride or ego?
What is to blame, then tackle it in therapy and don’t let it spoil what sounds like a very good thing.